Teach Conflict Resolution Skills
Teach Conflict Resolution Skills
Why should I do it:
- Many students lack basic skills necessary for solving and resolving daily conflicts with other students, adults, authority figures, etc
- Enables and empowers students to be more independent and highly functioning
- Reduces teacher’s time “putting out fires”
- Increases instructional time
- Promotes maturity
- Improves self confidence
- Reduces tattling, bickering, and disruptions
When should I do it:
- Conflict resolution skills are good to teach all kids in your classes at the beginning of the year and then again once a month to keep the strategies fresh in kids minds
- When students bicker, argue, and fight a lot
- When you lose time due to student conflicts and disagreements
- When a student is being suspended a lot due to fighting and conflicts with students and adults
- When students have trouble compromising, taking turns, sharing, etc
How do I do it:
- IMPORTANT NOTE!
- At the Tier 1 Level, think of doing conflict resolution lessons and interventions for the whole class or groups
- At the Tier 2 level, think of doing conflict resolution lessons and interventions for groups and individuals
- At the Tier 3 level, think of customizing specific conflict resolution lessons and interventions for specific students
- There are many skills and strategies for teaching kids conflict resolution, many of which can be found and explored below under support & resources
- These lessons and ideas for teaching the skills, found below, can be done with individual students, a small group, or the whole class
- Conflict resolution skills should be taught and revisited on a regular basis and should include role playing to practice the skills
- When students fail to use the taught skills, have them reflect on how they could have handled the situation or conflict and role play it with them
- Model proper conflict resolution skills for your kids with any opportunity you get, and point out to the students afterward how you used the skills
Resources & Support for technique:
(Items with footnotes link to external websites)
- Becoming A Problem Solver.pdf 1
- Bullies 2 Buddies lessons (3 free pdf downloads): How to Stop Being Teased and Bullied Without Really Trying, A Revolutionary Guide to Reducing Aggression between Children, & The Golden Rule Solution to Racism 2
- Bully Prevention In PBS.pdf 3
- A Sample Behavior Rubric for Elementary School: Aggressive Behavior Consequence Rubric.pdf 4
- Bullying: Time To Think Reflection Sheet For Lower Elementary.doc 5
- Bullying: Time To Think Reflection Sheet For Upper Elementary.doc 6
- Bully Think Sheet.doc 7
- CPS (Collaborative Problem Solving Technique).doc 8
- Embedding Bully-Proofing in School-wide PBS – PBIS.ppt 9
- Self Talk & Bullies.doc 10
- Think Sheet.doc
- Think Sheet.pdf 11
- Tips For Problem Solving.doc
- Trash Talk Vs. Real Threat.doc
- Warning Tickets.doc 12
- Let Kids Fix Own Problems.pdf 13
- Pre K To Grade 2: Conflict Resolution.pdf 14
- Grades 3 To 5: Conflict Resolution.pdf 15
- Teach Students Planned Ignoring 16
- Highly Recommended Bullying Links 17
- 101 Great Comeback Lines 18
- Bullying Defense Skills Training 19
- Bullying Advice 20
- FAQ When Your Child is Being Bullied 21
- A Call to Stop Bullying 22
- About.com. Becoming A Problem Solver. [http://clk.about.com/?zi=3/1bc&sdn=becoming+a+problem+solver&cdn=term2&tm=5&f=11&tt=22&bt=1&bts=0&st=10&zu=http%3A//specialed.about.com/library/problemsolving1.pdf].
- Bullies 2 Buddies. Bullies 2 Buddies Free Resources: How to Stop Being Teased and Bullied Without Really Trying, A Revolutionary Guide to Reducing Aggression between Children, & The Golden Rule Solution to Racism. [https://bullies2buddies.com/resources/free-manuals/].
- Stiller, B., Ross, S., Horner, R. H. Bully Prevention in Positive Behavior Support. [http://www.pbis.org/common/pbisresources/tools/pbsbullyprevention.pdf].
- Davis, S. A Sample Behavior Rubric: Aggressive Behavior Consequence Rubric. [http://www.k12connections.iptv.org/documents/antiBully2_DisciplineRubric.pdf].
- Central Elementary School. Bullying: Time To Think Reflection Sheet For Lower Elementary.
- Central Elementary School. Bullying: Time To Think Reflection Sheet For Upper Elementary.
- Shawnee Mission School District. Bully Think Sheet. [www4.smsd.org/positivebehaviorsupports/docs/Doc-87951.doc].
- Greene, R. W., Lives In The Balance. [http://www.livesinthebalance.org/].
- Ross, S., Horner, R. University of Oregon. PBIS.org Embedding Bully-Proofing in School-wide PBS – PBIS. [www.pbis.org/common/pbisresources/presentations/rosshornerbullyproofing0307.ppt].
- Letson, T. Self-Talk Skill. [http://www.bullystoppers.com/index.html].
- Watson, S. Behavior Think Sheets. [http://specialed.about.com/library/problemsolving2.pdf].
- Source unknown.
- WINGS for Kids, Inc. Let Kids Fix Own Problems. [http://wingsforkids.org/files/HotWINGS-ProblemSolving.pdf].
- The Nemours Foundation/KidsHealth. (2006). PreK to Grade 2, Personal Health Series: Conflict Resolution. [http://classroom.kidshealth.org/prekto2/personal/growing/conflict_resolution.pdf].
- The Nemours Foundation/KidsHealth. (2006). Grades 3 to 5, Personal Health Series: Conflict Resolution. [http://classroom.kidshealth.org/3to5/personal/growing/conflict_resolution.pdf].
- Lawrence, R. Planned ignoring. [http://www.learnnc.org/lp/pages/3060].
- Leston, T. Highly Recommended Bullying Links. [http://www.bullystoppers.com/links.html].
- Letson, T. 101 Great Comeback Lines. [http://www.bullystoppers.com/101_great_comeback_lines.html].
- Letson, T. Bullying Defense Skills Training. [http://www.bullystoppers.com/Bully_defense_skills.html].
- Letson, T. Bullying Advice. [http://www.bullystoppers.com/advice.html].
- Leston, T. FAQ When Your Child is Being Bullied. [http://www.bullystoppers.com/Parents.html].
- Herman, J. C. (2010). A Call to Stop Bullying. [http://www.qualityansweringservice.com/call-stop-bullying-answering-service].