Why should I do it:

• Improves kids self-confidence and self-esteem
• Increases instruction time
• Improves students’ independence
• Helps students to be more assertive
• Decreases the time it takes to deal with students’ crises, issues, meltdowns, etc
• Provides students a good life long skills
• Helps to empower students
• Improves behaviors
• Improves student problem solving
• Helps student empowerment

When should I do it:

• All students should be taught coping skills and they should regularly be modeled for all students
• When a student frequently has melt downs, falls apart, cries, experiences anxiety, has issues with friends
• When students seem to have trouble handling criticism, failure, disappointment, conflict, decision-making, etc
• When students have trouble appropriately expressing emotions, like sadness, disappointment, frustration, happiness, excitement, etc
• When you are having to frequently stop to console, encourage, or settle kids down

How do I do it:

• IMPORTANT NOTE!
  • At the Tier 1 Level, think of doing coping lessons and interventions for the whole class or groups
  • At the Tier 2 level, think of doing coping lessons and interventions for groups and individuals
  • At the Tier 3 level, think of customizing specific coping lessons and interventions for specific students
• Depending on the situation, need, and child, there are numerous ways to teach kids coping skills
• Always try to use active listening skills
• Use a clam tone
• Be firm when necessary and set boundaries
• Use support and resources below for specific lesson plans, ideas, strategies, and skills

Resources & Support for technique:
(Items with footnotes link to external websites)

• General Coping Strategies:
  • Coping Skills For Kids ¹
  • Helping Kids Develop Coping Skills ²
  • Students Teach Students: Using Student Essays To Build Coping Skills and Self-Esteem ³
  • Teach Relaxation Skills
  • Teach Students Planned Ignoring ⁴
  • Coping Skills ⁵
  • Coping Skills for Trauma ⁶
  • Survival Strategies of Children & Teenagers ⁷
  • Transactional Model of Stress and Coping ⁸
  • Coping Skills ⁹
  • Coping Strategies: Managing Feelings ¹⁰
  • Teach Coping Skills ¹¹
  • 100′s of Coping Skills Lesson Plans Reviewed By Teachers (Free Trial) ¹²
  • Coping Worksheets (Free Trial) ¹³
  • Coping Lesson Plans (Free Trial) ¹⁴
• Coping With Anger:
  • 6 Ways to Help Kids Handle Anger ¹⁵
  • 6 WAYS TO HELP THE ANGRY CHILD ¹⁶
  • Anger Management: Get Your Angries Out ¹⁷
  • Helping Children Cope with Anger ¹⁸
  • Helping Young Children Deal with Anger ¹⁹
  • PBS Kids Dealing With Anger Video ²⁰
• Coping With Boredom:
  • Deal with Boredom at School ²¹
• Coping With Change:
  • Helping Children Cope With Change ²²
  • Helping Children Cope with School Transitions ²³
  • Helping Children Deal With Change.pdf ²⁴
• Coping With Disappointment:
  • Help Kids Handle Disappointment: Learning to cope in the face of frustration is an important life skill. Here’s how to teach it to your child. ²⁵
  • Helping children cope with disappointment ²⁶
  • Helping Children Handle Disappointment ²⁷
  • Helping Kids Handle Rejection and Disappointment ²⁸
  • Teaching Guide: DEALING with DISAPPOINTMENT for grades K-5 ²⁹
• Coping With Embarrassment:
  • Embarrassing Moments: How To Deal ³⁰
• Coping With Fears:
  • 7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Failure ³¹
  • Fear of Failure: A Childhood Epidemic ³²
  • Help A Child Wrestle Worries And Fears.pdf ³³
  • Helping Children Who Fear School ³⁴
  • How To Conquer Public Speaking Fear ³⁵
  • Overcome the Fear of Speaking to Groups ³⁶
  • Phobics-Awareness.org ³⁷
• Coping With Frustration:
  • Children’s Feelings: How Children Express Frustration ³⁸
  • Fight Frustration: Help your child learn the patience, practice, and perseverance he needs to overcome obstacles ³⁹
  • Techniques To Help Kids Deal With Frustration ⁴⁰
• Coping With Low Motivation:
  • Motivation — Helping Your Child Through Early Adolescence ⁴¹
• Coping With Nervousness:
  • How To Get Children To Overcome Shyness Free Online Video ⁴²
  • The Nervous Child ⁴³
  • Tips for How to Deal with Back to School Nervous Feelings ⁴⁴
• Coping With Sadness & Depression
  • Dealing with Childhood Depression ⁴⁵
  • DEPRESSION AMONG CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS: RECOMMENDATIONS FOR TEACHERS AND PARENTS.doc ⁴⁶
  • Depression in Children with ADHD ⁴⁷
  • How to Help Your Child With Depression ⁴⁸
  • PBS Kids Depression Video ⁵⁰
  • Teen Depression: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS AND TEACHERS ⁵¹
  • Tips for Handling Depression in the Classroom: Helping Students Cope with Depressive Disorders ⁵²
• Coping With Grief & Loss
  • Nine Ways to Help Children Cope With Loss and Grief ⁴⁹
  • Helping Children Cope With Loss, Death, and Grief Tips for Teachers and Parents.pdf ⁶⁷
  • Dealing With Death at School.pdf ⁶⁸
  • Coping with the Death of a Student or Staff Member.pdf ⁶⁹
  • How to: Help Your Students Deal with Grief and Loss ⁷⁰
  • Resources for Helping Students Deal with Crises ⁷¹
  • Helping Your Child Deal With Death ⁷²
  • Resources for When Grief Comes to the Classroom through Death ⁷³
  • Helping Students Cope with Loss, Death and Grief: “Non-Therapeutic” Intervention for the Classroom.ppt ⁷⁴
  • Helping Children Cope: Teacher Resources for Talking About Tragedy ⁷⁵
  • Helping Children Cope with Death ⁷⁶
  • Books for Helping Children Cope with Death ⁷⁷
  • Helping Grieving Children at School ⁷⁸
  • Death: Dealing with Crisis at School Practical Suggestions for Educators ⁷⁹
  • Helping Students Deal with Loss ⁸⁰
  • National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement: School and Family Resources ⁸¹
  • Helping Children Cope With Death.pdf ⁸²
  • How Counselors and Teachers Tell Students About A Death.pdf ⁸³
• Coping With Stress & Anxiety:
  • Coping With Math Anxiety ⁵³
  • Help Kids Cool Down When They Are Stressed Out.pdf ⁵⁴
  • How To Relieve Back To School Stress and Anxiety ⁵⁵
  • How To Relieve School Anxiety ⁵⁶
  • Managing School Phobia: Helping Teens and Kids Cope with School Anxiety and Avoidance ⁵⁷
  • School Phobia Tips: How to Deal with Anxiety about School ⁵⁸
  • Separation Anxiety in Children: Easing Separation Anxiety Disorder ⁵⁹
  • Social Causes Of School Anxiety ⁶⁰
  • Teaching Children/Youth Coping Skills For Stress Management ⁶¹
  • Test Anxiety: How To Deal With Test Anxiety and Actually Do Better On Tests ⁶²
  • The Medical Basis of Stress, Depression, Anxiety and Drug Use! Explained in a FUN, easy to read format! ⁶³
  • What are some ways I can calm down quickly when I’m feeling overwhelmed? ⁶⁴
• Coping With Worry:
  • Helping Children Cope with Worries ⁶⁵
  • Helping Kids Handle Worry ⁶⁶

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